Igniting Intimacy: Sex Magic Rituals for Radical Living and Loving

Master the art of sex magic to forge radical new relationships with yourself, your beloveds, our planet, and life itself.

This groundbreaking book invites you to develop intimacies that are as creative as they are consensual, as playful as they are profound, as transformative as they are ecstatic. It offers fresh and accessible inspiration on topics such as self-love, conscious communication, and sacred sex, and includes practices and rituals for erotic shapeshifting, ecosexuality, ecstatic breathwork, and so much more.

Igniting Intimacy is for individuals and partners of all genders, orientations, and bodies who’ve always known there’s something more to sex, love, and being alive. It is an erotic playbook that demonstrates that the only tools you really need to have sex, meet god, and make magic are the ability to breathe and a willing imagination!

An essential manual for pleasure pioneers hoping to change themselves, their relationships, and our world one orgasm at a time.

Praise for Igniting Intimacy

“This book is for you, whoever you are. The language is inclusive and the content inviting and inspiring. You’ll learn new ways to relate with yourself, beloveds, friends, family, and the world. You’ll get to discover and define your own personal meaning and style of intimacy, not only with people, but also with the planet and with divinity. And… you’ll reap the boundless benefits of queering love, sex, ritual, and of course, magic.” – Barbara Carrellas, Author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century

“Rowan’s book is full of love and generosity. I feel as if they are sitting next to me, holding my hand, sharing with me from their vast storehouse of knowledge and experience.” – Betty Martin, creator of The Wheel of Consent

“Delightfully written, Rowan Bombadil’s Igniting Intimacy is a practical guide to the magic of enriching your relationships—with yourself, with others, and beyond. It’s not a sex manual, relationship guide, or typical ‘sacred sexuality’ tome. Bombadil brilliantly avoids some of the pitfalls of this genre: platitudinousness, new-age credulousness, cultural appropriation. Instead, Igniting Intimacy is pragmatic, straightforward, and jam-packed with insights, exercises, and practices that will help you connect and live more fully, happily, and erotically.”—Patricia Johnson & Mark Michaels, co-authors of Partners in Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy, and Long-Term Love

“I reviewed this on a blog post at Patheos Pagan’s Agora as part of a reflection on pride month this year. That review is here:…
As someone who is new to this branch of magic, I was absolutely blown away by how thoughtful, inclusive, and powerful Bombadil’s volume is. Having read a few sex magic books since I encountered Igniting Intimacy, I can say that – hands down – this would be my first recommendation for anyone who was queer, trans, non-binary, or anywhere else on the LGBTQQIAP+ spectrum and interested in pursuing sex magic. The author goes in depth into topics that are woefully absent in writing on witchcraft in general, including self-love, body politics and liberation, and what feels like a profoundly queer (both politically and sexually) approach to sexual liberation and sex magic…
I can say that this book is without a doubt my new favourite work on sex magic, and for anyone looking to make and have more love to/with themselves and their body, regardless of your background, this is a beautiful, intelligent, welcoming introduction. I cannot recommend it enough.” – Dr. Elliot Director, Operations Manager at The Witches Box

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